"I'm saying that filling the role you were made for, or maintaining the role you find yourself it, is not the prerequisite for being valuable that you seem to feel it is. It is not bad to be a chair, any more than it is to be a step-stool or a rainshade. But it has to be your choice, Lottie! You always have a choice." But if the only other options hurt everyone else … "Then it is still a choice."